An Open Conversation Between Parents And Children Can Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

Global cultures would like to believe that we are living in the 21st century, ultra-civilized and avant-garde world, modern and progressive in every way possible. Yet violence against children, especially child sexual abuse (CSA), is a chronic human tragedy in these same societies that is still too widespread. CSA continues to be one of the most serious and disconcerting challenges the world is facing today. Even after following many measures including legislation and regulations designed and enforced to regulate this abhorrent activity, CSA remains pervasive nationwide.

It must be recognized that human understanding and attitudes are as important and relevant in curbing or removing CSA as are legal requirements. In some communities, the perception of people towards abuse is often entrenched as human behaviour which impedes the progress towards reducing and eliminating child sexual abuse.

In India, thousands of girls and boys are sexually assaulted in homes, playgrounds, schools, public areas, and so-called “safe spaces.” They’re not safe at home with their relatives or acquaintances, nor outside in public areas. While there has been a substantial increase in the reporting of offenses, the courts are inefficient in disposing of these cases.

Crimes against children have grown by 84% in just three years. One of the most effective ways of solving this problem on ground level is to spread awareness both within and outside our communities.

How Can Parents Prevent Child Sexual Abuse?

The earlier a dialogue on child sexual abuse starts, the easier it will be for your children to share their thoughts and feelings openly. The best you can do is to make them believe that you are always there for them. They should be briefed on what is good touch and bad touch. 

Allow your children to speak about their body parts from an early phase in their lives, and use proper names to identify them. All their questions should be addressed and answered in a non-stigmatising way.

Never discipline your child for telling the truth as it gives them negative reinforcement about the same. Inform them about privacy, and help brush aside all their anxiety and discomfort. Most importantly, teach them how to be assertive and respond when they are in an unsafe situation.

Trust your child. If they tell you about an incident, do not wave it off as a joke or figment of  imagination. This will discourage the child from speaking to you in times of need. Ensure that your child trusts you.

Therefore, to ensure the health of your child and spread knowledge among the masses, it is equally necessary to make the child comfortable with their bodies. The role you may play here is that of a confidant who listens to the child without pushing them away.

The blog has been written by our Amol - Nidhi Singh

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